Do you need to improve your self esteem? When our self-esteem is low, we often run ourselves down. Little self-criticisms constantly enter our thoughts. This can become a habit so that we do it without thinking. This is doing you no good at all.
Our thoughts become our beliefs and that leads to our actions. If your subconscious constantly hears you putting yourself down it will accept your supposed faults as fact.
When you catch yourself with these self-criticizing thoughts you need to replace them with positive words. Keeping a journal is one way to change this behaviour. Every evening try to think of three things that make you feel good about yourself. This builds a more positive habit of looking at yourself.
These don’t have to be huge accomplishments. Perhaps you have set up new ways to monetize your blog. Maybe you have planted up an area of your garden. If you can build in helping other people that will increase your feeling of self worth. See if an elderly neighbour needs help.
The first thing to realize is that you deserve to have better self-esteem. And the stronger you are, the more you can help others. You shouldn’t feel guilty about treating yourself well. You are not being selfish.
Sometimes we can get so hung up on caring for our nearest and dearest that we put ourselves last. There is a reason why airlines tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others. This is no different. You need to look after yourself and your own mental well-being.
Improving your self esteem by ignoring others
Do you feel negative about yourself because of what others are telling you? Unfortunately some people take pleasure in putting down others. They probably have their own problems and don’t like to see you doing well and feeling good. You shouldn’t listen to them. Don’t let them define you as a person. Be your own person and be proud of who you are.
If you are a naturally reserved person you may think this sounds a bit egotistical. In actual fact those with huge egos often don’t feel that good about themselves. Their boasting and bravado is sometimes a screen for their own insecurities. Self-esteem is often quiet.
When you have healthy self esteem you are happy with yourself. You don’t worry so much about what others think. You will know that nobody is perfect so why worry if you make a small mistake. Don’t let others put you down.
Learn to laugh at your mistakes and those that would make fun of you will stop when they realize they have no power over you. Some of these sad individuals get their pleasure from putting others down.
How journaling helps
You may find it difficult to just swap out negative thoughts and replace them with positive thinking. That is why I suggested you should start a journal. Putting something in writing is often easier.
Each night record three things that you did that day to be proud of. Maybe you did a good deed for someone. Perhaps you mastered something that you have been trying to do for a while.
Did you set up a blog that you have been planning for a while. Perhaps you think nobody would be interested in your blog. That is one of those negative thoughts that proves you need to work to improve your self esteem.
It may be something you didn’t do. If you are trying to lose weight, did you resist that piece of chocolate cake?
What qualities do you admire in your peers? Did you manage to be more like them today? You undoubtedly have many qualities you take for granted. If someone pays you a compliment do you accept it gratefully? Or a you one of those people who says “it was nothing”. Learning to accept compliments graciously is a good sign that your self esteem is improving.
It’s easy to forget all the things in your daily life that you should be proud of. Learn to value your good qualities and work on the areas that you are less happy with. These small steps go a long way to helping improve your self esteem.
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